
When does a new place become a home? I call London home freely, and it gets me into trouble sometimes, a slip of the tongue and I have my mum insisting 'London isn't your home, this is your home!'. Of course she's right, Yorkshire will always be home; the rolling hills, the biting cold, the smell of Yorkshire air when you step off the aeroplane, the tea, the Northern twang, family. But actually I am neither born nor bred in the county I so effortlessly call my home, and have lived there for only 9 of my 20 years. So here I am sat in this new city wondering what makes a home home... Wondering whether I will ever call Bologna home, wondering whether I already accidentally have... It doesn't have to be so philosophical; a new country, city, house linguistically becomes a home merely out of facility. It's just a word after all. Italians (and in many other languages I imagine) use 'casa' for both house and home, so I really should stop scrutinising this little four letter word. Nevertheless, I like to overthink things and made a conscious effort at the beginning to avoid the 'h' word. Since then, I have allowed by efforts to slip, and both linguistically and physically our little Bolognese flat has evolved into something of a home.
We (me and my roommate, Josie) traipsed around the city for three long, painful days before finding our flat, and then over-enthusiastically accepted it within 5 minutes of walking away. The truth is, nothing could have prepared me for the flat-hunting nightmare. We began by looking for two separate single rooms, and when that appeared to be almost impossible, decided to search together for a twin room. With one obstacle overcome, the next was convincing flat-owners to rent us a room though we would only be there for 6 months. Rejection after rejection, posters baring 'NO ERASMUS', empty phone calls and pointless flat-viewings. With hope almost lost, I resigned myself to living in the hostel - which was comfortable and provided endless tea and coffee - before something appeared; a decent room, a great location, no drama, no obstacles - what's the catch? Though we may have spent a good few hours scrubbing mould off the wall and trying to understand why there was no contract to sign, though we may have to hand-hold the shower-head and light the hob with matches, and though our minuscule beds may feel as though they may collapse any minute, there is no catch. I'm now living in a perfectly imperfect Bolognese apartment, with one of the city's most famous gelaterias right opposite (taunting me), Bologna's beautiful gardens a five minute walk away and my half 8 morning class a 4 minute run away...
The next few days after moving in involved arranging furniture, ikea shopping and filling the kitchen with Italian food, fresh herbs and English tea. Now I have created a 'baking cupboard' and stuck up vocab sheets in the kitchen, and there we have it - dare I say it - a 'home away from home': this one is made of pasta, stilted Italian conversations and postcard-covered walls.
Since the beginning, life has gradually evolved from the new and exciting - days filled with sight-seeing, photo-taking and museum-going - to the perfectly comfortable - trying new Italian recipes, chatting and laughing in the kitchen, watching films and visiting cafés. Uni has begun, routine has been found, and though I am still discovering new places, taking shameless tourist photos and getting lost, it is nice to feel as though you don't have to be doing something everyday all the time in order to be 'making the most of the year abroad'. I think this means I'm settled, I thinking this means I might be becoming Bolognese.
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